Healing Beyond The Scale

WEBSITE: https://www.nstransformativecoaching.com THE WOMEN RESTORED METHOD https://www.nstransformativecoaching.com/offers/iJEe2gTG/checkout Welcome back to the Restored and Aligned Women podcast. I'm so blessed that you're here. Thanks for being here. I'm thankful for you. Today we are going to talk about something that I believe many women discover. Nicole (00:25) Sometimes too late. And after years and years of dieting, weight struggles, and continually trying different things to try and fix themselves or fix their weight or just feel better. But here's the truth. Weight loss alone does not heal what's underneath. Nicole (00:45) Have you ever thought if I could just lose weight, everything else would finally fall into place? Nicole (00:53) If I could just lose 10 pounds, I could be happy. If you've thought these things, then this is the episode for you. Today, we're going to connect the dots between weight, health, identity, and true healing and why lasting transformation has to go far beyond the number on the scale. Nicole (01:20) I cannot tell you how many conversations I've had with women who believe that losing weight would finally give them the life, the peace, the confidence, the happiness that they were longing for. Nicole (01:34) They thought that they would feel confident, that they would have the energy. They would stop criticizing themselves every time they looked in the mirror. Nicole (01:47) And sometimes that does happen temporarily. They do lose the weight. Nicole (01:55) And then it's doesn't last. They still feel exhausted or they're still anxious. Or those patterns and those thought patterns continually resurface after those initial Nicole (02:15) gains. And sometimes they do feel competent, but then there's other things deeper that still manifest and they look at themselves and Nicole (02:27) They don't see it. Nicole (02:30) As a nurse and coach, I've realized that many women are actually searching for more than just weight loss. Nicole (02:39) They in in different areas in health and wellness as well, they're searching for so much more. They're searching for the peace, for the confidence to fill a gap, a hole in their in their being, in their body. They want the freedom, they want the health. Nicole (02:58) They want to finally become the person that they've always wanted to be or feeling like they once did when they were younger and they just want to get back to that feeling that way again. Nicole (03:14) And those things can't be measured by the scale or even physical. Nicole (03:22) All the time. Nicole (03:27) Connecting the dots. Nicole (03:32) I'm not saying that physical health doesn't matter because it absolutely matters. Caring for our bodies is one of the greatest, most beautiful gifts that we can give to ourselves and our families. True transformation must go beyond appearance alone. And usually when you're around somebody that is going through that transformation or has that transformation, you can see it, you can feel it. It is radiating from them. Nicole (04:04) So many of us are not dealing with just weight or just fatigue. Nicole (04:12) These things are deeper. They are just manifesting as as these symptoms inflammation, hormone imbalance, emotional exhaustion, which Nicole (04:26) Personally, I feel in nervous system overload is so underunderstood and addressed overall. and self-abandonment, which is an interesting concept that we can talk more about, but and just trying to survive, living the day-to-day grind, just getting through. Nicole (04:52) And many women become trapped in those cycles, restrictions, all or nothing thinking, perfectionism, crash dieting, over exercising, under eating, guilt around food, emotional just Nicole (05:10) Th those cycles do not just affect our metabolism. They solely damage our trust in ourselves. Nicole (05:20) Which leads to deeper deeper issues. Emotional eating is often misunderstood. Nicole (05:28) Food is a beautiful thing. Many women are eating because they lack discipline. Sometimes food is comfort, it becomes relief. It's the Nicole (05:42) The quick Nicole (05:46) the quick reward when we have given, given, given, given all day. And that sugar is an immediate, you know, dopamine or food, whatever, whatever your food of choice is, it it's a quick dopamine hit for your brain and you just immediately feel better and you feel like you're able to go about the rest of your day. Nicole (06:18) that quiet moment in your car or in your office when you get to indulge on this on the cupcake or the pizza pizza and you're just like, that feels so good. And then Nicole (06:33) And then the guilt hits. Nicole (06:37) This is where we need to understand this and stop it and realize it's okay. We need to give ourselves love and grace because that moment. Nicole (06:54) may be seen a w may be seen as weakness, but it can also be seen as self care. Nicole (07:02) In moderation, and when you understand what is going on. But if we never address the emotional, mental, spiritual, and nervous system aspects of healing, the cycle often continues, or we we are chasing one thing after another, and we're not completely putting the puzzle together. And so we put one piece together while something over here. Nicole (07:31) on the left is slowly falling apart. And then while you fixed one thing, the other one is falling. And so then we're just chasing. And then by the time you get you fixed the one that fell, the one that you had already corrected before it's falling apart. So my philosophy is is the whole person. Nicole (07:57) Getting helping people to understand that it is the whole person. It is not Nicole (08:04) the symptom. It is not just, you know, putting the band-aid on or or hyper focusing on one thing because there is a much larger, much bigger picture. There's much more going on than just the pain or just the the craving or just the weight. Nicole (08:26) And if Nicole (08:32) someone can understand what's going on in their body, they are more able to love themselves and take care of themselves in a way that their body, not the person next to them needs, but their body, the way their body and their emotions and their mind and what they need. Nicole (08:50) Lasting transformation is not simply behavior modification. Nicole (09:01) Our bodies are not broken. Nicole (09:12) They're overwhelmed, exhausted, inflamed. Our sleep is poor, hormones are dysregulated, and our bodies have adapted to years of survival. Nicole (09:32) And then we start blaming ourselves. Nicole (09:41) what I hope to inspire is self love and compassion because Nicole (09:53) As women, we do so much, so much seen and so much unseen. We sacrifice willingly so much for our families, for our friends, for our jobs, for our patients, and without Nicole (10:15) being aware and having a healthy boundary and mindfulness of that. Nicole (10:22) we start to lose ourselves and start to lose confidence in ourselves and Nicole (10:37) the effects of that are can be disastrous. Nicole (11:03) Our habits are not sustainable if our mindset is Nicole (11:10) Rooted in Nicole (11:15) Shame, guilt. Nicole (11:20) tearing ourselves down, if the stress remains unaddressed, if we have a lifestyle that doesn't doesn't ever truly change, our body can often return to survival. And so that's when we survival illness, that's when I was talking about those plates. You know, we fix one and then the other one. And so we don't have time or the understanding to focus on all of the pieces. But Nicole (11:49) Day by day, as we start to learn awareness of that true transformation can happen. Physical, emotional healing, lifestyle restoration, and identity work, redefining or even identifying who you truly are. Nicole (12:12) And what you're wanting from this beautiful life, this beautiful gift that you've been given and able to be happy and enjoy it with those that you love around you. This isn't doesn't look like perfection. It's learning to support your body in a way that is realistic and sustainable. Nicole (12:41) While this isn't all about physical healing, nutrition and to support your body. Nicole (12:49) helps regulate your nervous system and your emotions and your hormones. So I'm Nicole (12:58) Very passionate about low g low glycemic nutrition and supporting the nervous system. Nicole (13:05) When we stabilize blood sugar, we reduce inflammation, we can nourish our bodies better, help regulate stress, and create sustainable rhythms. And then we can start to feel better physically and emotionally. I have seen Nicole (13:29) I I've experienced it in my own body and so I I know how it feels and I know how it looks on the outside. I had a patient the other day and I knew already knew her background and and history and I and I saw her and I can tell that she is Nicole (13:57) She was crashing and she was having, you know, a little bit of lightheadedness, anxiousness, and just that brain fog. I could see it all over her body. And, you know, when I asked her what she ate, she said, I ate a couple of eggs, some hash browns, and Nicole (14:20) Of two eggs, hash browns. Nicole (14:25) and a and a piece of meat. And she ate that at one PM and Nicole (14:37) Our appointment was at two two thirty. Nicole (14:42) Long story short, I knew what was going on and I gave her some to help Nicole (14:54) Helped stabilize her blood sugar. And ten minutes later I walked in and she was a completely different person. While I try, you know, I educated and and did my piece. I don't think she fully understood. She felt like it needed to be something bigger. Something else was wrong with her. But Nicole (15:18) outside looking in, she was night and day difference from before she ate to after. Our diet when we eat, what we eat, can have such a drastic impact on our bodies. And while it can't, you know, people are saying eat this, do this, heal this, you know, it's it's not just one thing. It's not one food. It's giving your body the nourishment to do what it needs to do. Nicole (15:54) I love being able to educate and I hope every time I educate that they that they're not my patients do not unhear what what I heard or at least take it with them a little bit so they can feel better throughout the rest of their day. Nicole (16:34) One of the most important parts of healing, physical, emotional, spiritual, is building a relationship with yourself. And I believe having a relationship with with God. Nicole (16:48) That is my personal belief. Nicole (16:52) But building a relationship with yourself and having that trust and love for yourself is crucial. Nicole (17:02) Many women go throughout their years thinking they're the problem or not even addressing that at all, underlying subconsciously thinking they're the problem, but just, you know, being in that survival mode. Nicole (17:20) You are not the enemy. The body's not the enemy. Food is not the enemy. Sugar is not the enemy. Your worth has never been determined by the scale or the amount of Nicole (17:35) inches that you have around your waist. Nicole (17:43) And this isn't about accepting yourself for it. It is about accepting yourself. It is, it is loving yourself for where you are, giving yourself grace for whatever happened in the past to get you to where you are, realizing and loving yourself that you did the best you can with what you have. And now you can do better. You can start restoring yourself from the inside out. Nicole (18:13) whether that is physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and or spiritually, where whatever areas. But I do believe that to truly heal and transform, all of these areas do need to be addressed at some level. Learning to live from a place of love and peace and alignment instead of just pure survival and grit. I gotta do this. Do the grind. Right. Nicole (18:46) Before I finish up today, I'd love to leave you with a few simple things that you could do throughout your next week. Nicole (18:58) First is asking yourself what you're wanting or what you feel you're needing. Ask your body, what have you been hoping to gain? If you're wanting to wait how lose weight, what are you hoping weight loss would fix? And don't rush this. Be slow, slow down, and just really ask yourselves and sit with yourselves in these. Nicole (19:27) in these moments and give yourself time to really be with yourself and listen. And sometimes the answer isn't physical at all. Nicole (19:41) You could be very surprised at where this might go. Secondly, choose one way to support your body instead of pushing it this week. Nicole (19:56) This might look like Nicole (20:00) Eating enough protein, getting better enough or better sleep, or simply just taking a walk, or looking in the mirror and choosing to silence the negative self-talk and to say some kind words to yourself. Nicole (20:24) Like, I love you. You are beautiful. Nicole (20:29) My body is amazing. It has got me through so much. Nicole (20:37) Our bodies have had babies, we have ran marathons, we have Nicole (20:47) Done really hard things. Our bodies are amazing, amazing, and a gift from God. Third, begin noticing the ways your body communicates with you. Instead of asking, what's going on with my body? Why is this happening to me? Why is it? Why can I not feel better? You can try asking you. I asked this earlier, what might my body might be trying to tell me? Nicole (21:20) I Nicole (21:25) have a very keen have a very strong awareness of what's going in my body. I know Nicole (21:33) what's going on. One part of it is I know the physiological aspect of what's going on when I when I see things happening. And some of that is educating yourself. But if you just slow down and ask your body what it needs and what it's trying to tell you. If you have pain, where is it coming from? Nicole (22:03) And sometimes it's not you have knee pain. But it's likely it could be your knee specifically, if an injury or something like that, but it could be from your hip or your shoes or your back. Something is out of alignment. I was having a lot of knee pain and I I don't I've never I'd never had Nicole (22:32) A lot of pain before and I Nicole (22:36) didn't at that point in my life didn't have a lot of resources and I didn't know where to go, but I went to a shoe store and they had a a scanning. They scanned your foot and Nicole (22:50) They scanned my foot, they gave me some inserts to put in my shoes, I put in my shoes, and I would wear wear them, you know, when I worked and worked out, and my tea pain my knee pain went away completely. It was not my knee that was a problem. It was a misalignment elsewhere. Nicole (23:13) So sometimes it's just getting curious and following, following, connecting the dots and addressing, thinking out of the box too. Because it can be more than one thing. And if you have knee pain, trying, you know, no, you you can try five different things. Try one thing. If that doesn't work, go to the next. And something else to consider is time. Nicole (23:42) We want quick fixes and a lot of times the healthiest, more natural way, which is what I believe in, even though there is a time and a place for acute and emergency medicine and surgery, but time our bodies are amazing and can heal if we give the body what it needs. But what I have seen my patients do, they quit way too soon. Nicole (24:09) They're starting to get better, starting to heal, and they don't it's such a such a slight gradual change. And then they stop and then they fall right back and they think it didn't work. But that's not the case. So sometimes it is time. Nicole (24:26) And not doing too much at once. Nicole (24:34) I do want to leave you with a little bit of encouragement today as well. In Psalm one thirty-nine, we're reminded that we are fearfully and wonderfully made. God did not create your body to be Nicole (24:53) He created our b our bodies. Our bodies are beautiful. He created it with incredible wisdom and power and beauty. And if you've spent years chasing weight loss or different healing, Nicole (25:10) methods and you still feel disconnected from yourself, your body, you're not getting success, you're not failing. It might be that you're not asking the right questions. Maybe your body needs a different approach. Nicole (25:30) Or you're asking for something deeper. Nicole (25:34) There's something missing. The dots are not connected. Nicole (25:45) So want to remind you, healing involves love and encouragement and consistency and grace. Shame is not a part of healing. Shame is from the enemy. Nicole (26:09) So this week's challenge is to Nicole (26:14) Choose one act of kindness toward your body every day. That self-talk. That kind self-talk that I was talking about earlier. Because your body is beautiful and you are worthy. And you deserve tr to treat yourself with the same kindness that you treat others. Nicole (26:34) You are worthy and your body is worthy of being cared for and loved on. Nicole (26:40) Thank you so much for spending time with me today. If this episode encouraged you, inspired you in any way, I'd love for you to just to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with somebody who may need this as a reminder. If you were thinking about somebody when you were listening to this podcast, please share it. People don't know what they don't know. And sometimes we feel like Nicole (27:07) Everybody just already already knows but that's not true. Nicole (27:14) It is our responsibility to Nicole (27:19) Share health and wellness and love and knowledge, and you never know when a word might just change somebody's life. If you're ready to stop chasing these quick fixes and begin restoring your health from the inside out in a whole-body holistic way, I'd love to walk alongside you through that with my women restored method program. You can learn more at Nicole Schrader Transformative Coaching. Nicole (27:48) dot com and it's actually in s transformative coaching.com and the link is in the show notes. Until next time, remember you are worthy of healing and worthy of peace and worthy of becoming the woman God created you to be. You are beautiful. I love you all. See you in the next episode. Have a great week.